Preached by Michael Cheuk
February 17, 2008, Second Sunday in Lent
Romans 4:1-5, 13-17
Valentine’s Day was this past Thursday, and couples all over the country flocked to florists for roses, and made reservations at restaurants for romantic meals. Valentine’s Day is also big day for engagements, which we usually consider to be something shared between two people. And yet, I think anyone who’s been married knows that on some level, while the proposal says, “Will you marry me,” the reality is also a little bit: “Will you marry us – me, my cranky dad, my overprotective mother, my feuding sisters, and my crazy uncle?” In fact, it seems most of us go through an inevitable phase in our relationship – whether before or after marriage – when we are confronted by the unspoken rules of our partner’s family. In our family, one person might say, the toilet paper falls flush along the wall! No, in our family, the right way is to roll over the top so it’s easy to reach! Or, in our family, we go all out with surprise birthday parties with a big fancy meal at a restaurant and presents galore! Well, in our family, the birthday kid was lucky to get a cake from Kroger’s with a card that said, “Love, Mom.”
We all know these differences, right? And many of us have felt the stress of introducing a new partner to the family. Or perhaps you’ve seen it from the other side of the table, awaiting a son to come home from college with his new girlfriend, visiting for the weekend. And whichever side you’re on, we all hold our breath, waiting to see if it’ll be a good match. Did you remember to tell the new boyfriend that in our family, we root for the Hokies? Did you caution him not to tell Mom and Dad that he’s voting for Hillary Clinton? Did you remind her to rave about your mother’s signature “Jello Delight”? Will your girlfriend remember to take out her nose ring so that Grandma won’t have a coronary? We worry about all these rules, and worry about whether our chosen partners can adapt to them quickly enough so that they will be “all right” with our family. Many times, the trouble with our in-laws is that they act like “outlaws”-breaking the unspoken rules of our family, or refusing to change and adapt to fit to the way we do things.
Well, in our New Testament lesson this morning, a similar situation was taking place. Read the rest of this entry »
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